Tom Brady is a very good quarterback. Can we all agree on this? I mean, if you’re a football fan you know this and if you aren’t you can Google his stats quickly enough and decide that, yes, he’s good at what he does.
It is also fairly obvious that, like him or hate him, he’s an attractive man. Â He just is. Â And because of these two things, because he’s attractive and because he is good at his job, both men and women seem to be fond of him. Â Not all men and women, but a good lot of them. Â We can all agree on this, yes?
(Stay with me, I promise this is baseball-related!)
I have never, in the entire time Tom Brady has been with the New England Patriots, read where people assumed the only fans who like him are women or people who don’t know anything about football but just latch on to the most popular player. Â Never. Â As a matter of fact, I have actually read criticism of people who claim to not like him because of the lifestyle he leads. Â Articles and blog entries abound at how we shouldn’t let Brady’s off the field persona cloud our judgment of him as a football player because of how good a player he is. Â There are also the ridiculous amount of articles and blog entries dedicated to his looks (almost always about his hair) as if we should genuinely care about how Tom Brady looks.
So I ask this: Â If it is understood that Tom Brady is a handsome man who does his job well…not only understood but his looks are often mentioned as another reason Mr. Brady is so great…if this is acceptable by the sports media both mainstream and in the blogosphere, then why do so many people have a problem with the fact that Jacoby Ellsbury happens to be a fine looking man?
It seems to be a foregone conclusion to many professional writers as well as bloggers that if you proclaim that you are a Jacoby Ellsbury fan you are a (wait for it) “Pink Hat” fan and completely ignorant of the game. Â Hell, the Boston Globe pays Peter Abraham to call people “pink hats”. In regard to his blog entry about Jacoby creating a Twitter account, Abraham remarked:
This could be the biggest news for Pink Hats since the invention of the pink hat.
First I need to say that if they ever track down the creator of the phrase “pink hat fan”, I will find the person responsible for it and spit right in his or her eye. Â Secondly, Peter Abraham, though extremely thin-skinned when it comes to anyone daring to criticize him, is a good writer. Â That he reverts to using a term most likely coined by some rabid WEEI listener is just sad. Â He can do better. Â Anytime I read someone using that phrase and it isn’t surrounded by a criticism of it, I get a good idea of exactly what that person must think of women fans. Â When I read a woman fan using it, I just hang my head. Â No matter how many people defend it as being all-encompassing of fair weather fans who know little about the game, that is bull to me. Â The only fans you see at the park, for the most part, wearing pink hats are women. Â Â They don’t call them “alternate color wearing fans” and you never read insults about fans who show up at the games in camo caps or other non-team colored apparel. Â This is about women, plain and simple.
It’s especially obvious that it is about women when the term gets thrown around as liberally as it does when talking about fans of Jacoby Ellsbury. Â Now, let’s get back to my mentioning Tom Brady. Â I don’t mean to imply that Jacoby Ellsbury will end up being as good at baseball as Tom Brady is at football. Â I’m showing the double standard. Â Because if Jacoby was as good as Tom there wouldn’t be the stigma of being a fan of his. Â Johnny Damon was, in his time, considered a good-looking guy…especially when he was in Boston and pre-caveman days. Â I sat at a bar one night where grown men shouted “Johnny Damon I love you!” to him as he was there hanging with some other players. Â It was okay for all of us to like Johnny because not only was he handsome but he was good. Â (Also, this isn’t to say Jacoby isn’t or won’t be good. Â Personally, I like watching the kid play and think he has a lot to offer, has given the team a lot and will continue to do so as long as Â no one is out there trying to break his ribs.)
I rarely say this because it’s rarely true, but I’m convinced the vitriol thrown at the fans of Jacoby Ellsbury is based on pure jealousy. Â I have no doubt that even if Jacoby hit .100 all season, never stole a base and committed error after error in the field, that he would have a large following of fans because, yes, the man is fine. Â But, as I’ve stated about a million times since this blog began, finding someone attractive doesn’t equal being a bad fan. Â It’s about time some men realized that. Â It is perfectly acceptable to find a player attractive. Â Men find the likes of Heidi Watney and Erin Andrews attractive and talk and write about it incessantly. Â I’m sorry that, unless you’re a gay man, as a man you have no one to appreciate visually when you’re watching baseball and instead have to obsess on sideline reporters. Â I’m not sorry that, as a heterosexual woman, I have plenty to visually appreciate. Â But appreciating that Jacoby Ellsbury is most likely the best looking player in MLB today doesn’t take away from other parts of being a fan and I’d sick of people like Peter Abraham perpetuating that stereotype for a joke.
If a man tells me he’s a baseball fan, I don’t immediately start peppering him with questions so he can prove it to me. Â Yet I’ve lost count of how many men, upon finding out I blog about the Red Sox, say something along the lines of “I bet Jacoby Ellsbury is your favorite player” with the implication being that he couldn’t be my favorite player because he plays well, that, if he is, it has to be because he’s handsome. Â It’s unfair to me, it’s unfair to all women and it’s unfair to Jacoby.
But back to Peter Abraham. Â After blogging about Jacoby’s Twitter account, he took to Twitter to complain that a fan commented that he was bashing Twitter with that blurb. Â His response to that was a sarcastic “But I’m on Twitter” so I responded to him that the idea he was bashing Twitter was ridiculous when it was obvious he was bashing women fans of Jacoby’s. Â Predictably, he never responded to me.
This blog has a decent following of both men and women. Â Our live chats are fun and full of not only references to baseball but many other topics. Â Folks are almost always respectful of one another…which is nice…and if they aren’t it quickly gets settled. Â Aside from the period of time when I was on WEEI.com, it’s almost a baseball Utopia here because the women fans who visit know they won’t be dealing with men who have no respect for them as fans and the men know they’ll get some fun and intelligent baseball talk. Â A very small part of this is due to my moderating the more offensive comments. Â The larger reason for it is because, thankfully, this blog seems to attract people, both men and women, with a deep passion for the game and an appreciation for their fellow fans. Â This pleases me more and more each day.
So what is the point of all my rambling this fine Saturday morning? Â I’m not sure. Â Maybe just to get this all off of my chest. Â The season will quickly be upon us and I’m excited for that. Â I’m not excited to reading about “Pink Hats” from the likes of Peter Abraham and because of that I feel it important to set the mood for the season. Â I’m not suffering fools or insults thrown the way of women fans lightly this year. Â You’ve all been warned.
It’s important to point out that Peter Abraham is certainly not the only mainstream sports writer to use the term (or to insult fans of Jacoby’s)…but he’s the latest and, in my mind, one of the more respected writers which is why I found it so bothersome – even if only in a “lowly” blog entry. Â Have some respect but more importantly here, be professional. Â Is that so difficult?
Also, for the record, head to Fenway Park on any given day and you will see many, many Jacoby Ellsbury t-shirts and jerseys being worn. Â I’d be lying if I said the majority of them weren’t on women or children but I’d also be lying if I said that there were no men wearing them. Â With each year he’s on the team, Ellsbury jerseys and shirts show up on more and more men. Â He’s a good player, people like him and he’s a handsome guy. Â He, nor his fans, should be embarrassed of any of these things.
(For those interested, Jacoby’s Twitter account is @JacobyEllsbury. Â Jarrod Saltalamacchia, a handsome fella in his own right although Abraham doesn’t mention “Pink Hats” when referring to him, is also officially on Twitter @Jarrod_Salty39.)
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